God's Maths in Marriage Relationship

In a marriage covenant, one male and one female are joined together, with God as the witness, and the two become one flesh.

“at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” ‭‭ - Mark‬ ‭10‬:‭6‬-‭9‬ ‭(NIV)‬‬

Here comes the mystery: How can two people (two flesh) become one flesh?

We often hear people describe their spouse as "my other half." Some describe finding their spouse as finding their "missing half." Some suggest that when two people come together, both should lose part of themselves, compromising as one...

All of these can be summed up as a common misconception: one half plus the other half equals one. (0.5+0.5=1)

God’s maths in a marriage relationship is actually multiplication; it’s never just addition.

(1x1=1), Both multiply in each other’s life and become one.

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What is the difference between addition and multiplication?

Addition involves merging several individual items to create a new sum, whereas multiplication entails using repeated addition to combine equal-sized groups of items. In multiplication, groups are formed to represent the numbers being multiplied, and then these groups are combined to yield a total.

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If people treat marriage as addition in maths (+ / -), two individuals walk together and walk apart. You are you and I am me. Your problem is your problem; my problem is my problem. Both would be happy or sorry for each other, but that’s just empathy, which makes the two good friends. Not becoming one.

In fact, when a male and a female get married, they are multiplied in each other’s life and blended together. Since the two become one, they are not separable. As it is written: "Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Your happiness would be my happiness. Your problems are my problems. Your goals are my goals. They will have mutual goals, but both value helping each other to achieve their personal goals as if they are their own. When there is something one person needs to overcome, the other person doesn’t just stay in his/her own lane and cheer the other up but to overcome the challenges together.

It’s not about how two people squeeze into one flesh. One plus one will always equal two.

(What? Haha, are you expecting God's maths won't make sense? He didn't just create you and I, heavens and earth. He is the creator of everything, so even maths and science are His creation.) When you force the addition math 1+1 to equal 1, something is wrong and something will be missing or lost.

To multiply instead: 1x1=1

Rather than compromising into one, comprehend and multiply with each other into one.

“And you, be ye fruitful, and multiply; bring forth abundantly in the earth, and multiply therein.” - Genesis 9:7 (KJV)

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God is the creator of marriage. So even people in the world may still think it's 0.5+0.5=1.

That's not true.

No one can complete your life and make you whole except the only one true God who created you. You need to have a personal relationship with God, knowing your identity in Christ, before dating and getting married. When two broken people come together, as their life and soul are also blended together and part of them in each other (since the Almighty God - the creator of marriage, has made marriage multiplication maths), so the equation would be 0.5x0.5=0.25;

They consume each other and become even more broken together. 

In order for the relationship to remain whole (one flesh), both the husband and the wife have to be completed by God, know their identity in Christ and stay in Christ. If either one does not walk in Christ, it would make the joined flesh a broken flesh as a result of consuming each other.

Dear Brethren, fix your relationship with God and let God fix your marriage. For God is love. God's love in us will empower us to love one another.

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. - Matthew‬ ‭6:‭33‬ ‭(NIV)

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Let's Pray Together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

Thank you for loving us so much that you gave your only begotten Son, our Lord Jesus Christ to die for all of our sin, so through Him, we can have abundant life. We acknowledge that Jesus is the Son of God and the only way to God. We commit our lives, our marriage and our family to you. Help us to prioritise you and your kingdom. Help us to be fruitful and multiply. We repent of our sin. Have mercy on us. Holy Spirit, lead us in the path of righteousness for your name sake.

In Jesus' name we have prayed.

Amen.